“Liberal” My Ass

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I love it when people say that San Francisco is liberal, as if it was a given, obvious fact that no one ever can or should doubt. It makes me laugh. I guess their definition of “liberal” is quite narrow nad limited to political views and a few other social issues. However, just because there are more freaks roaming around Market street and its vicinity with mismatched or plain weird clothes, tattoos and piercing and other signs of desperate desire to stand out and in all the wrong ways, including walking naked during gay pride and similar parades, and just because so many homeless people sleep and pee on the streets doesn’t mean the city is truly liberal. In fact, in many ways it’s quite conservative and uptight. The best testament to that is people’s strong aversion to be criticized, or judged or receiving advice. They are so afraid that, god forbid, someone will give them some kind of suggestion or will point out something negative about them and their behavior, that at any hint of that kind of feedback they immediately become defensive, exclaiming: “why are you judging me?” They act like that girl you met who challenges you on everything you say and who tries to do the opposite form what you ask her to do, just to show you that she can, because she has been oppressed for so long by her parents of ex-boyfriends, and now she is on a mission to prove to you and the rest of the world that no one can ever control her in any way ever again. My favorite question in that context is “who are you to judge me?” I have a clear and simple answer to this question: I am just another fellow human being with a few views and opinion and I must trying to share one or two with you.Judging has a huge value. Judging or criticizing one thing that makes us reevaluate our actions and the world around us, and as a result – hopefully making certain changes and improvement. Judging is probably one major, essential component of most achievements and developments.

Contrary to what some people think, freedom does’t mean not judging or not being judged. In fact, the opposite is true.  True freedom means being free to express an opinion and judge whatever  and whoever you want and being free to hear words of judgment from others that are directed at you without being necessarily offended or hurt, and then deciding whether you want to accept them or not. We have a lot of work to do toward getting to that kind of freedom, so lets not get ahead of ourselves and not call this city liberal just yet.

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I Can’t Wait for a Judgment Day

One more time I hear someone say “don’t judge me” , I am going to puke. I will try to puke right on them and on their weak-ass persona. As soon as I am done wiping from my face the partially digested tomato soup I just ate at an overpriced organic lunch joint downtown, I will ask: what’s wrong with being judged? Aren’t we blessed with our wonderful brains in order to do just that – to judge, to form opinions, to admire when due, and criticize when we feel like it, to give and receive advice, to seek constant change, so that we can grow and improve in one or more aspects of our lives? Why are we so afraid of being judged? Why can’t we handle tough love and why don’t we even want to try?

Lots of people in San Francisco say they like honesty and they want honesty, but you try to be honest with them and see how far that takes you. Before you know it, those honesty seekers will become extremely unvailable to see you or talk to you, so the safe choice as of today at least is to keep your honesty to yourself or dispense it very carefully when you are literally cornered and forced to do so. Perhaps it’s time to grow up and out of your hippie relativism and start taking a long, hard look at yourself, that’s been hiding behind excuses.

Last time I checked, no one died or was injured by a being called on their shit. If anything, they benefited from it. Judging means caring one way or another. Most people who compliment you want to please you, and that’s not the same as caring about you. Judge away! Maybe then, one day, we will have a special day or a special holiday if you will – a judgment day where we all make at least one very honest judgment about each other to each other, and take it a like a man, regardless of our gender. Till then, lets hold off on calling San Francisco a truly liberal city.