Patience is Not Always a Virtue

missed connection san franciscoIn San Francisco, we might not keep it real, but we surely know how to be patient.

We tolerate BART strikes that lead to three-hour traffic stalls, garbage on the street and urine stanch, slowly but surely increasing homelessness, ghettos, never-ending construction, road repair and resurfacing, buses that jolt your whole body into intolerable nausea when they move and stop every block, and greedy landowners who drive cool places away that have been making this city so special and fun for so many years.

We put up with bad music in bars and clubs and we call overpriced, unhealthy, flavorless food fine dining, just because it is served at a futuristic looking, all-glass-no-comfort-or-warmth restaurants full of posers.

We call excessive drinking a “good time”.

Our reaction to a terrible movie or a show is “It was alright”. We stand in line in stores and restaurants not because we have to, but because everyone else does.

We love to say that we are happy even when we are not, and we smile even when we want to cry so badly.

The single among us love to say that we are single because we are too busy / too picky, instead of telling the truth – we give off an unfriendly vibe and so does everyone else around us. For instance, the couple in the picture above would look so good together, but they will never meet…

We call manly and angry looking women who act like they are God’s gift “independent” and “ambitious”.

We say “take your time” when we are extremely inpatient, and not because we want to but because that’s the “right” thing to do.

We pay three times more for everything to be living in an urban setting to only isolate ourselves from the outside world with white headphones, sunglasses and incessant texting.

Perhaps it’s time we considered throwing eggs and rotten tomatoes at a each other as a sign of all-encompassing revolt against anything and everything hypocritical and fake that surrounds us, to make a first significant step to abandoning patience and tolerance for the sake of something arguably far more important – authenticity – with others and just as importantly – with ourselves.

San Francisco Attittude on Pine St – “Too Hot to Handle”


Remember that Nissan Xterra Commercial  – “Everything You Need; Nothing You Don’t”? Here is a classic example of a female that has a little bit of what we guys want and so much of what we don’t need and what we want to avoid so badly. Specifically – that I-am-the-shit attitude in women that has been earning this city a pretty bad reputation for a while now.

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Attitude on Bus 30

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Attitude on Bus 30

I am not sure how long looking like a harsh and angry woman on a bus has been considered cool, but it is certainly a widespared behavior today. There are creepy guys out there who this kind of behavior would away, but there are not that many of them. I would venture to guess that the vast majority of people on a bus, especially Bus 30, are not looking for any trouble, so this kind of cold energy is unecessary. It’s easy to say that the reason people look and act like they are so unapproachable is because they are shy or insecure about their communication skills with strangers,  but I would still love to get into their minds to find out what possesses them to separate themselves from the world that way. Buti, I know that I am not going to get a true answer. Instead, they are going to feed me with some kind of innocent bs, such as “my eyes are very sensitive to light.”  My recent guilty pleasure is to watch how people, who wear sunglasses in relatively dark place, struggle when texting, as they can barely see what they are typing on their phones.