About 200 people showed up at my sister’s concert with minimal promotion. At least 10 people found the event on a meetup site. I seriously doubt that they would find it, if it was taking place in SF. This kind of concert would have been buried among hundreds or even thousands of other concerts, happy hours, networking events, etc. How do you find it then? And more importantly – how do you choose to go to an event if there are so many other options, however good or mediocre any of those options might be? When you only 2-3 interesting options for a Thursday evening, you are going to have a much easier time choosing which one to pick and you are going to enjoy it more thoroughly.
The next day, we went to an Afghan lunch buffet. There were only 3-4 salads and entrees to choose from, but they were all very good. This relatively modest amount of choices prevented us from overeating, because unlike in other lunch bars with way more options, here there was no temptation to try every single thing.
My sister also started dating a new guy. They met at a local hiking meet-up. It has only been a couple of months but he is clearly very focused on her based on how involved he is in her life now. All things equal, the fact that the pool of available women where she lives is significantly smaller than here, whether online or otherwise, a guy has to focus on and appreciate the women he meets and likes, instead of developing a chronic dating and sexual wanderlust, like so many guys do in NYC, SF, and alike places.
Having no choices is bad. But having too many choices is just as bad. Like in many other aspects of life, having the right amount of choices – an amount that makes you feel free and empowered, but at the same time not overwhelmed and confused – is what makes life better and more interesting.