I would like to introduce a new type of friend you are likely to make in SF – the Friend, Ltd. This is a so to speak “limited liability” friend – someone from whom you have very low expectations as far as friendship goes. Your relationship will amount to having a drink or dinner every month or a couple of months. You hardly have any personal conversations that touch on any sensitive or otherwise meaningful subjects and your conversations rarely go beyond small talk and business.
Flaking is mutually acceptable and you won’t have all that much in common besides interested in alcohol, watching a game or celebrating a birthday together. It’s mutually understood that you don’t have any expectations of loyalty or being there for each other when one of you is in need. Sounds familiar?