Having reflected on the Tinder service since I first talked about it being the new dating crutch, I had the opportunity to consider the new howaboutwe.com dating site. Here are my initial observations:
First, the good – I strongly support any attempt to get people off their ass and away from the computer and to get them to do something together, whether it’s hiking, running, or just having coffee and having an actual, live conversations rather than e-mail and text.
On a deeper level, however, this kind of site endorses a certain hypocrisy, where people are forced to pretend that they want to engage in a certain activity rather what they presumably are really after – meeting a person who they find interesting and attractive and being with that person regardless of the activity they are involved in.
I am not a big fan at all of people pretending to be after something, when it’s something completely different that they want. In that sense, an ordinary dating site where people say a few things about themselves and what they are looking for as far as dating/relationship goes, encourages people to be more honest. Whether they are in fact honest in describing themselves and what they want is, of course, another matter.