It’s funny that the same exact women in San Francisco who complain about not meeting enough (normal) guys do everything they can to make meeting them harder or impossible. By constantly wearing sunglasses, even when it’s dark, cloudy or even indoors, they virtually eliminate any chance of having a casual conversation with a guy. Such an interaction would usually require (1) an eye contact; and (2) a conversational ice-breaker. The shades pretty much take care of the eye contact and the i-phone headphones “take care” of the conversation piece. In addition, by constantly texting she makes any guy feel like he would be interrupting her important business of updating her Facebook status.
These women might think that looking unaccessible somehow makes them “mysterious” or keeps the creeps away, but it also keeps the other, normal guys away. The question that they need to ask themselves is whether the price they are paying for looking isolated from the world is worth the benefits. I highly doubt it. We might think that we are very different from other animals, but in some of the most primal and fundamental ways, we are very similar to pumas, zebras, and dogs in that when it comes to any kind of romantic or sexual encounter, eye contact is the embryo of any such interaction. It’s the very first step in any romantic encounter – whether it’s totally superficial and only lasts an hour or whether it’s a lifetime partnership, or anything in between. Animals can’t afford not having an eye contact as their mere survival depend on it. We have invented online dating, but this should not turn this dating crutch in to a wheelchair, exclusively relying on match.com and alike, which is … too bad.