Dating and sex is simply not women’s priority in this town. A combination of being too jaded by too many Tinder / Hinge dates that haven’t gone anywhere, having sex drive suppressed by corporate jobs and feminist propaganda, and not having female imagination stimulated by quality romantic movies and books pushes love to the bottom of the local woman’s list, and way below career, dining, make-up and clothes, yoga, and trips to Napa / Tahoe.
When dating, love and sex are not your priority, you are not going to be inclined to flirt and notice romantic opportunities around you. In fact your cold stand-offish energy will clearly communicate that you just not interested in the opposite sex – from unapproachable facial expression and sunglasses, to not taking your eyes off of your smartphone and and turning away the moment any guy glances at you. And even if you do meet someone who you are kind of interested, your chance of flaking will be quite high, because … you just not that interested – not in that guys specifically, but in the entire male kind in general.
You are missing out. The question is whether you know how much.
1. Dating fatigue. A thousand 30 min coffee dates that go nowhere will leave you empty, jaded, hopeless, and worn out physically and mentally, feeling profoundly bitter about wasting so much time and energy.
2. Texting fatigue. Staring at your phone screen too much and sending way more text messages than you really need to will waste a lot of your time that could be spent doing so many other things.
3. Fakeness fatigue. Constantly smiling, trying to appear more friendly, excited, and patient than you really are, asking and telling people things you don’t really mean (i.e. how are you? How was your weekend? Take your time. After you…), and suppressing negative emotions will eventually make you burst in rage or dive deep into depression due to this major lack of congruence between how you really feel and how you pretend to feel.
She is demanding, self-centered, entitled, and usually overdressed. She is white. And if she isn’t, she is trying really hard to act like one.
Me, coffee and my bff I-phone. Should we call it …. an i-date?
Two douches and a cunt in sunglasses – where else could it be?
One negative comment, a disagreement with or even the subtlest criticism toward a fellow human being will necessary ignite a fight, full of uncalled for insults. We are incapable of addressing or discussing issues when someone is judging our behavior or actions. Instead, we habitually get defensive and temperamental. So much for mature, civilized, western society.
The next time you cross the street and some driver doesn’t notice you, coming a bit too close to you, try not to do what anyone else in SF would do – try not to stare him down or yell and cuss at him. Chances are quite high he didn’t try to run you over on purpose, and he is already scared of what might have happened.